Beyoncé’s Blackness Parade at Coachella is What I Want to Do When I Grow Up

I had the pleasure of sitting and watching her full performance and as usual I was not disappointed. Since Beyoncé has been a solo act, I have gone to all of her concerts. The main reason is that this woman knows how to put on a show. From the pyrotechnics, to her very much LIVE singing, I cannot take my eyes off of her. I hate concerts where people just stand and sing. I can watch your video for all of that. If I’m going to pay money for a performance, I need to be visually entertained! I need my dollars’ worth of action or I will set this whole arena on fire…with my words on the internet. (Just covering myself in case a fire is started in a vicinity near me. It wasn’t me folks) I always thought it was pretty interesting to see how someone can keep up such high energy while singing, when I have an issue with just walking and talking. From her amazing ode to the wonderful HBCUs in America, to her singing of the black national anthem, and down to her bringing on the crew she first started with, Destiny’s Child, Beyoncé left it all on the table.

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Why The Phrase "I Don't Have Any Female Friends" Is Toxic To Women

I know what you are thinking. My situation is one of few. That for some reason God has chosen to bless me and only me with amazing female friends. Though I enjoy thinking that I'm God's main follower and he focuses solely on me, I know that this is incorrect.  There are many women empowerment groups that are springing all over the country.  They may be small in numbers but groups like Femergy and Women Of Sovereignty not only provide services to women in the community but also helps to empower and encourage ladies all over to be a part of something greater

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The Elderly and Making the Next Chapter in Life Cool

In fact, i’ve stumbled upon this coming of life movie called “The Book Club” that stars, Jane Fonda, Candice Bergen, Diane Keaton, and several other actors and actresses who are past their “prime”. Or, at least that’s would Hollywood would say, especially for women. Men are often found super attractive as they age, as women are shown as motherly matrons with a few Blanche-type women here and there. They aren’t to feel sexy, or adventurous, or talk about anything but daytime television and their grandkids.   We have painted them into a box and they are no longer interested in staying there. Now senior women (and men) are redefining what "prime" truly is.

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Beyonce and Jay-Z is doing another 'On the Run' Tour!?!? Sike! *Updated Info

As a card carrying member of the Beyhive, I stay on ready to go see Queen Bey in concert. Until, I went searching for the concert dates and they were nowhere to be found. The concert was announced and then removed from the ticketing sites and the artists' sites. There have been no comments made to address the magically disappearing tour, nor were there any hints of an upcoming tour.  This tends to be normal in the marketing life of Beyonce.

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Wakanda Black Panther Woman are You?

When I looked at the main female characters of the movie I could see each of their qualities in many women that I know. I sat there and was able to place my mother, best friend, so on and so on, which again led to that internal pride surge rising within my spirit.   They showed that they can get their point across without having to be degrading or degraded. 

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3 Reasons Why We Hate Being Single

Society feels your value decreases once you hit your 30s.  The idea is that most people should be married by the time they hit their 30s.  The “prettier” you are the more likely you are to be married.  Not to mention that women face increasing fertility issues after the age of 35. So you have several clocks ticking.  I Also want to throw in the theory that all the good guys get snapped up quickly so when you hit your 30s you feel like you are scraping the bottom of the barrel. You start to self analyze and yearn for someone to be close to you. 

You get tired of putting up that front that you are always okay with being single.  You would love to have sound echoing through your empty house or just basically enjoy the perks of a relationship that you can't enjoy while being single. 

Having a partner is a great thing to have! You can split bills and watch your top shows while sharing some awesome social commentary. You can hang out on those lovey dovey holidays like Valentine’s Day or Sweetest Day. Not to mention a constant source of booty. (Yep! Totally added that perk!) You don’t have to answer “WYD” texts because he’s right next to you.  In the end you miss having a consistent companion. 

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Leslie Jones Echos The Sentiments of Many Single Women

Yes, I like to exude positivity and think on the up and up but I would be a fool to say myself or to other women that I have never felt the way that she has felt.  Especially during the holidays when you see all your friends are getting married and having kids.  She shared something deep and notable that has hit many a woman on a drunken Saturday night when they look up to see their weekend bottle of Malbec is gone and the last episode of “Frankie and Grace” has played.

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I Spent Too Much Time Hating Being Single

In actuality my standards weren’t even high.  They were a low-medium at best.  At first it was just that you needed a pulse. Then I upgraded to you need a pulse and your own car.  Finally, I got to pulse, own car/crib, job that supports you and you alone(and your kids if you have them), a good person, and someone I could mentally connect with.  I set up little rules like “I’m not going to do this until I get a man” and other things that I put out into the universe hoping to cheat destiny by pretending that I didn’t want a man, but in actuality I did. I was putting so much stress on myself and listening to others so much that I was unhappy.

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Aziz Ansari, Sexual Harrassment and 3 Things Women Need to Know

We have to be cautious on what we call assault as this can become a slippery slope when addressing relations with the opposite sex. Of course there are major infractions that we obviously can call assault, but now we are getting to a granular level of what may be deemed as assault to others, can also be seen as miscommunication to some.  However the line of sexual assault is at times thin. We may not be able to categorize every instance of assault but what we can do is learn how to navigate those situations so that we can walk away with our dignity.     I do agree that Ansari was probably thirsty, but I hesitate at calling it a true assault because he could easily interpret her actions as welcoming. 

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Business Owner Denies Refund to Deceased Client’s Estate

McCloud later took to Facebook to support her decision in not refunding the $350 due to Ariyan’s  signed contract at the time the deposit was paid.  Unfortunately, many people on social media strongly disagreed with McCloud’s decision.  The post she made was shared over 14,000 times and was littered with responses in support of Ariyan’s mom.  McCloud received so much backlash over her response that she ultimately had to shut down her original Facebook business page, Executively Made. 

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Ginuwine Opted Not to Kiss a Trans Woman on TV, but Why is There Outrage?

Another issue is in this day in age sexual assault is the hot topic of all social media outlets.  It’s not just relegated to women as men have been victims of sexual assault also.  I bring this up to say, is this not sexual assault? Why is no one calling her out on forcibly trying to kiss a man who clearly was not interested from the get go? Everyone is focused on him expressing that he didn’t want to date someone who was formally a man, yet they give her a pass for pushing herself on someone.

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4 Way to have a happy single Christmas

Use old magazines and clip out the pictures of what you want and paste them on paper or poster board.  For example, if my goal is to be a homeowner for next year, then I would find pictures of houses that I like, cut them from the magazine and paste them on my poster board.  I would do this for everything that I hope to obtain in 2018.  It’s like an art class project which is fun for adults.  The great thing about vision boards is that you will hang them up in a place where you will see it often and mentally keep yourself on track to achieve your goals. I like to do this yearly and I think it’s pretty cool! Click here for more on vision board ideas and examples to start your party.

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How to Tell if He is Worth Your Time?

Yet, when I look at the women complaining about the men they've dated and how much time was wasted on him, I can’t help but think “how are you surprised?” At times, us women are so desperate for a solid relationship that we tend to let words carry us away and forget all about the actions that should accompany those words. You have to know your worth, meaning understand the value you bring to the table and expect that from him as well. I get that everyone is different and situations may vary, but there are some pretty similar thoughts on how to tell if this guy who is interacting with you is worth your time.

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ABC News Shades the F*ck out of Black Women

What really set me off was their tone deaf article title, “For many black women, Meghan Markle’s engagement offers ‘hope’"

Hope? Really? I’m not sure which offended I should be.  Should I interpret this as black women are in such dating despair that this one person’s engagement is our relationship drought savior? Or that black men are such disappointments that black women are praying for a white miracle to save them?

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Holiday Robberies: How a Single Gal Stays Safe

In another instance, one person is a normal passerby who approaches your door unarmed posing as an innocent bystander while the other armed assailants are hiding out of sight waiting to pounce. As you see, people are becoming more clever in their tactics and unfortunately can cost us not only our holiday cheer but our lives. It is imperative that we take additional steps to secure our home safety and to ensure that this holiday season remains joyous and fun! In this post I will give you 5 ways to help add safety around the home and give you some piece of mind.

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How A Single Gal Stays Sane During the Holidays

Be long winded and Honest- Don’t you hate those people who keep talking and talking, and you can’t get a word in edge wise? Then what do you do? Avoid them and certain topics because you don’t want to be caught up in that hurricane. Make sense right? Be that person! Be that long winded talker that makes people want to stay farrr away from the subject.  Tell them all the unexciting nuances of dating and use that Ben Stein voice to really drive it home.  Your boring story coupled with their recent ingestion of Tryptophan, will have them running away from.

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Should You Wait 90 Days Before Sex?

Some feel that this isn’t an adequate way to really tell if he’s here for you. Some guys will play the role for 90 days and still leave.  Here’s my personal belief:  Guys don’t like it because they have to wait for something they want right now.  They have to put a little more effort to get it, when honestly they were just hoping for it within the first week or two. (some cocky guys say the first night. But you know, F**k them.)  I do agree with men on some of their viewpoints.  A man could play the role, take your goodies and run. However, in my years of research, hearing other stories, and understanding human emotions, is waiting a period of time really that bad?

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Managing Your Emotions is Crucial in Growth

Too often we make big decisions off of our current emotions.  We jump to conclusions and it can cost us some big things. Relationships, friendships, jobs.  I remember my mother told me about a girl who was her ace, but they stopped talking suddenly.  Later she found out that during the conversation she had with my mother, the lady was offended because my mom laughed at something that maybe she shouldn’t have laughed at.  Instead of reaching out and saying, “Hey, it hurt my feelings when…” she instead just stop talking to her.  That’s it.

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