4 Ways To Protect Your Heart While Being In A Situationship

You're Not The Only One - Hurts doesn’t it? The fact that you put that thang down so hard and so bad that you thought, "Man he ain’t going nowhere and he’s only going to want this." Negative, Nancy. You are not his only thing he is smashing, he’s got Bettys on deck. He may not tell you this, but trust and believe me, there are some other ladies that he is entertaining. Especially if he is not trying to lock you down or is not coming to you often to get it( a lot of men claim to have high sex drives, so I’m just going off of what they claim). You can’t blame him, he’s a single man, and that’s a perk of being a single man,

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The Midwest Regional Sweet And NaturalFest

The Sweet and Natural fest Put together by founder Daphney Thomas who has a background in Community Engagement, Program Coordination, and PR consulting for small businesses. This festival was created with the intent to promote "economic mobility, collectivity, and admiration for ethnic beauty in a family friendly and very vibrant atmosphere" says Thomas.  Tiffany Ware was also very pivotal to helping pull off an amazing event!  Ware who is the creative director for The Brown Girls Project which was "developed to celebrate, uplift, encourage and inspire a specific segment of black women and girls who are normally invisible or even dismissed by mainstream media and oftentimes our own community." Look out for this duo's amazing feats in the future!

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Confessions Of A Single Gal: Part 1

Now our girl will tell another chick in her situation that she should move on. Or make sure she keeps her heart separated, but it’s hard for her to take her own advice. Just like many of us. Why is it so hard to take our own advice? We know this is good stuff and we know we are giving some A1 advice but why do we not take it? Do we feel like we are above our own advice? That we can beat it? Or maybe we think if we keep giving others this advice that somehow our own issue will become better.


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3 Ways to Communicate Better

Another reason is that people become tired of explaining their thought process, especially if they’ve already stated it. I remember growing up people would say “I’m not a recorder. I don’t repeat myself.”  In this case, I assume you want to have miscommunication issues because you aren’t willing to be patient enough to help people understand your point of view. If they don’t hear you the first time or understand your intentions initially, why do you think saying it the same way will help them better understand you?  Sometimes it is a volume issue. Perhaps this person is hard of hearing and cannot understand what you are saying in its entirety. Other times, when you thought you were clear, you may not have been as clear as you thought you were to that individual. 

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The Effects Of Sexual Assault And Domestic Violence Doesn't Have A Time Limit

Flash forward 50 years later and women are now able to come forward when they have been assaulted and for the most part, have their abusers addressed. Unfortunately, so many of our mothers and grandmothers didn't have that chance to share their stories. And for some, this is now their time to be heard. 

People complain why did they wait so long, when the question should really be why did we wait so long to care? No matter when the pain happened, it never goes away. I hate that people say "you should have kept it to yourself", which is saying the victims should continue to be silent.

Can you imagine telling someone who lost their child to murder and share their stories later, why are you still talking about it? Why are you now choosing to say something about it?

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Morgan Freeman May Have Been Outed As Having A Sexual Relationship With His Step Grandaughter

Once Freeman released his statement, it appeared that the rumors died down until a tragic event happened in 2015.  E'dena Hines was murdered by her boyfriend Lamar Davenport on August 16th outside of their Washington Heights apartments.  Neighbors reportedly could hear Hines screaming as Davenport stabbed her 25 times, while possibly shouting religious phrases. Attorney's for Davenport allege that they were both high on PCP and that the murder wasn't premeditated which is why he is being charged with Second Degree Murder. 

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Dating 101: Top 3 "Good Guys" To Watch Out For

He contacts you throughout the day and mysteriously is never available in the evening. And when he is, he is trying to come over to your home to see you. He doesn't want to go out in public on dates because he doesn't have the money to spend on expensive dates,(yeah right) and if you offer to pay he'll come up with another reason why he can't meet you but insist to come over. (He think he slick)

When you finally do go out, it's to a place that's in a obscure area.  Why is he doing this? Because he's really not single. He may be kinda single but not all the way single. What's kinda single? It can fall into some of the following categories

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Beyoncé’s Blackness Parade at Coachella is What I Want to Do When I Grow Up

I had the pleasure of sitting and watching her full performance and as usual I was not disappointed. Since Beyoncé has been a solo act, I have gone to all of her concerts. The main reason is that this woman knows how to put on a show. From the pyrotechnics, to her very much LIVE singing, I cannot take my eyes off of her. I hate concerts where people just stand and sing. I can watch your video for all of that. If I’m going to pay money for a performance, I need to be visually entertained! I need my dollars’ worth of action or I will set this whole arena on fire…with my words on the internet. (Just covering myself in case a fire is started in a vicinity near me. It wasn’t me folks) I always thought it was pretty interesting to see how someone can keep up such high energy while singing, when I have an issue with just walking and talking. From her amazing ode to the wonderful HBCUs in America, to her singing of the black national anthem, and down to her bringing on the crew she first started with, Destiny’s Child, Beyoncé left it all on the table.

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Why The Phrase "I Don't Have Any Female Friends" Is Toxic To Women

I know what you are thinking. My situation is one of few. That for some reason God has chosen to bless me and only me with amazing female friends. Though I enjoy thinking that I'm God's main follower and he focuses solely on me, I know that this is incorrect.  There are many women empowerment groups that are springing all over the country.  They may be small in numbers but groups like Femergy and Women Of Sovereignty not only provide services to women in the community but also helps to empower and encourage ladies all over to be a part of something greater

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The Elderly and Making the Next Chapter in Life Cool

In fact, i’ve stumbled upon this coming of life movie called “The Book Club” that stars, Jane Fonda, Candice Bergen, Diane Keaton, and several other actors and actresses who are past their “prime”. Or, at least that’s would Hollywood would say, especially for women. Men are often found super attractive as they age, as women are shown as motherly matrons with a few Blanche-type women here and there. They aren’t to feel sexy, or adventurous, or talk about anything but daytime television and their grandkids.   We have painted them into a box and they are no longer interested in staying there. Now senior women (and men) are redefining what "prime" truly is.

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Beyonce and Jay-Z is doing another 'On the Run' Tour!?!? Sike! *Updated Info

As a card carrying member of the Beyhive, I stay on ready to go see Queen Bey in concert. Until, I went searching for the concert dates and they were nowhere to be found. The concert was announced and then removed from the ticketing sites and the artists' sites. There have been no comments made to address the magically disappearing tour, nor were there any hints of an upcoming tour.  This tends to be normal in the marketing life of Beyonce.

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Wakanda Black Panther Woman are You?

When I looked at the main female characters of the movie I could see each of their qualities in many women that I know. I sat there and was able to place my mother, best friend, so on and so on, which again led to that internal pride surge rising within my spirit.   They showed that they can get their point across without having to be degrading or degraded. 

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Leslie Jones Echos The Sentiments of Many Single Women

Yes, I like to exude positivity and think on the up and up but I would be a fool to say myself or to other women that I have never felt the way that she has felt.  Especially during the holidays when you see all your friends are getting married and having kids.  She shared something deep and notable that has hit many a woman on a drunken Saturday night when they look up to see their weekend bottle of Malbec is gone and the last episode of “Frankie and Grace” has played.

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I Spent Too Much Time Hating Being Single

In actuality my standards weren’t even high.  They were a low-medium at best.  At first it was just that you needed a pulse. Then I upgraded to you need a pulse and your own car.  Finally, I got to pulse, own car/crib, job that supports you and you alone(and your kids if you have them), a good person, and someone I could mentally connect with.  I set up little rules like “I’m not going to do this until I get a man” and other things that I put out into the universe hoping to cheat destiny by pretending that I didn’t want a man, but in actuality I did. I was putting so much stress on myself and listening to others so much that I was unhappy.

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Aziz Ansari, Sexual Harrassment and 3 Things Women Need to Know

We have to be cautious on what we call assault as this can become a slippery slope when addressing relations with the opposite sex. Of course there are major infractions that we obviously can call assault, but now we are getting to a granular level of what may be deemed as assault to others, can also be seen as miscommunication to some.  However the line of sexual assault is at times thin. We may not be able to categorize every instance of assault but what we can do is learn how to navigate those situations so that we can walk away with our dignity.     I do agree that Ansari was probably thirsty, but I hesitate at calling it a true assault because he could easily interpret her actions as welcoming. 

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