13 Ways to Uplift Young Women: Celebrate Their Triumphs and a Good Male Role Model
You made it back! Yay! Thank God for small miracles! Last week we talked about why being unique and exposing to new experiences can be important to a young woman. The link is below if you have missed it! Now let's focus on celebrating triumphs and why a good male role model matters!
Celebrate Her Triumphs!
I like to celebrate good things! No matter how small or how unimportant the success may be, I need to celebrate in some form or fashion. Either it’s an energetic “yay!” or maybe a nice gift to commemorate the event. Whatever the way, I like to celebrate people’s smalls successes. We live in a world where some people do not care about what you do or what you have. They don't care if you do well but will be the first ones to let you know if you did something wrong. If one only hears negativity on a consistent basis, why would they ever desire to excel? Because when they did their best and they failed, people harped more on the fact that they failed versus that they tried at all. Not to mention people have become desensitized to positive achievements and instead of thinking "what can I do better to be better", they would rather make you feel as though you are not that special.(Jerks!) But you are! If people take the time to downplay your achievements, they weren't for you anyway. They never expected you to grow because they could not grow themselves. Young women need those voices of celebration because so many would rather keep you in misery than for you to expand your horizons.
Give Her a Good Male Role Model
Growing up without a good male role model can be detrimental to a young woman's growth. What's worse, many adult women believe that a woman does not need males as she grows up which is farthest from the truth! She may not be a man, but she will interact with men all through her life. She will have to learn who is for her and who isn't. She must learn who has her best interests at heart versus who has her lady kat in mind. (I just have to say it like this! Lady Kat. Use it!) When she finally does meet someone she wants to be in a relationship with, she has to learn how to effectively communicate with him and understand man's mental state. Women may think they know how to teach women about men, but they are the masters at it. Just as I do not believe a man is an expert on women, women aren't the experts on men. Women will teach what they feel a man should be and do, not how they truly are. Although we may be on the receiving end of getting game ran on us, often times it is not 'game' we just don't know how to listen to what he says and implement a new action plan based on what he said. But who can share that with her? I know! A good male role model!
Another point is that many young girls will be seeking affection from men. When they aren't taught how a man should interact with them, they will take what they can get based on what they think they should receive. Many young girls' ideas of love and romance are based off of what they initially see with couples they know and what they see from watching tv shows like Pretty Little Liars.
It isn't real, nor scripted. Once they see that love doesn't work out like they had hoped, it can often be way too late and may find themselves in some sticky situations. Males are crucial to her self-esteem and reinforcing that she is beautiful. She learns that she doesn't have to accept whatever treatment that is given to her by the male sex. When she understands that she can do better and should do better, she will do better.
Tired of my series yet? Well I'm not! lol Next week we are moving into encourage their ideas and the importance of respect!