Leslie Jones is 50, single, and at times a little bummed that she’s not pulling the guys she wants in order to live her happily ever after. She posted a photo of herself post work out and said:
“Ok back to cardio. But confession I feel like I’m doing it for nothing. I know it not I’m healthy and look good but I really feel like “what’s it all for” if the people you want to notice don’t. I just feel like I might die alone. Sorry that’s pretty heavy today!!’
Yes, I like to exude positivity and think on the up and up but I would be a fool to say myself or to other women that I have never felt the way that she has felt. Especially during the holidays when you see all your friends are getting married and having kids. She shared something deep and notable that has hit many a woman on a drunken Saturday night when they look up to see their weekend bottle of Malbec is gone and the last episode of “Frankie and Grace” has played.
Especially as you age it can start to look like time is running out and you may end up alone. I’m not going to say I never feel this way as it’s okay to have doubts. We are human and imperfect beings that feel a multitude of feelings. What is not okay is to stay there and adopt that way of thinking permantely. I am a firm believer in what you put out into the world, you will get back. Though it may not make sense to you as to why you are in the predicament that you are in now, it doesn’t mean that there isn’t more for you. Women are getting married in their 50s, 60s, and later. I never want it to feel like I am dismissive of a woman’s feeling because we are imperfect beings and we should be allowed to let that sorrow and doubt leave our bodies so that it can make room for something greater than who we are.
Yet and still, we must encourage each other to be powerful and strong. The road ahead of us may be long and daunting, but when you have the love and positive energy from those who are in the same boat as you, it doesn't make it seem so bad.
I am not sure if Leslie will read this but I want her to know that she isn’t as alone as she may feel because there are many of us single ladies out here waiting for our Kings. There is no one right way to live and grow. There is only the way that you chose. What I will say is that God doesn’t make mistakes and what’s meant for you is out there. Be open, be encouraged, and most of all, be you!
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