Being single is great, but having a relationship is great too! Some of you ladies out here genuinely want a relationship and aren't all about the She-Ra-Sis-Boom-Bah single life lovers' chants. And ladies, that is okay. It's okay also to sit back and reflect on what you can do to make yourself a more attractive partner. Sometimes there are things we need to work on to be better mates, daters, or women period. We aren't all born already knowing how to be a good partner in a relationship. Sometimes you have to invest time into yourself to see what is stopping you from being great.Read More
Don’t meet someone you just met in a private place- Many of you are into online dating, which I think is cool! Unfortunately, it’s hard to read someone until you meet them in person. Sometimes they may offer to come to your place or invite you to theirs, but just say no! Meet them (and anyone new for that matter) in a public location until you finish vetting them and are comfortable. Do not let anyone rush you to do what you aren’t ready to do. If they say they can find someone else to do whatever, throw them the deuces and get right back on it!Read More
You're Not The Only One - Hurts doesn’t it? The fact that you put that thang down so hard and so bad that you thought, "Man he ain’t going nowhere and he’s only going to want this." Negative, Nancy. You are not his only thing he is smashing, he’s got Bettys on deck. He may not tell you this, but trust and believe me, there are some other ladies that he is entertaining. Especially if he is not trying to lock you down or is not coming to you often to get it( a lot of men claim to have high sex drives, so I’m just going off of what they claim). You can’t blame him, he’s a single man, and that’s a perk of being a single man,Read More
Now our girl will tell another chick in her situation that she should move on. Or make sure she keeps her heart separated, but it’s hard for her to take her own advice. Just like many of us. Why is it so hard to take our own advice? We know this is good stuff and we know we are giving some A1 advice but why do we not take it? Do we feel like we are above our own advice? That we can beat it? Or maybe we think if we keep giving others this advice that somehow our own issue will become better.
He contacts you throughout the day and mysteriously is never available in the evening. And when he is, he is trying to come over to your home to see you. He doesn't want to go out in public on dates because he doesn't have the money to spend on expensive dates,(yeah right) and if you offer to pay he'll come up with another reason why he can't meet you but insist to come over. (He think he slick)
When you finally do go out, it's to a place that's in a obscure area. Why is he doing this? Because he's really not single. He may be kinda single but not all the way single. What's kinda single? It can fall into some of the following categoriesRead More
Yes, I like to exude positivity and think on the up and up but I would be a fool to say myself or to other women that I have never felt the way that she has felt. Especially during the holidays when you see all your friends are getting married and having kids. She shared something deep and notable that has hit many a woman on a drunken Saturday night when they look up to see their weekend bottle of Malbec is gone and the last episode of “Frankie and Grace” has played.Read More
Yet, when I look at the women complaining about the men they've dated and how much time was wasted on him, I can’t help but think “how are you surprised?” At times, us women are so desperate for a solid relationship that we tend to let words carry us away and forget all about the actions that should accompany those words. You have to know your worth, meaning understand the value you bring to the table and expect that from him as well. I get that everyone is different and situations may vary, but there are some pretty similar thoughts on how to tell if this guy who is interacting with you is worth your time.Read More
What really set me off was their tone deaf article title, “For many black women, Meghan Markle’s engagement offers ‘hope’"
Hope? Really? I’m not sure which offended I should be. Should I interpret this as black women are in such dating despair that this one person’s engagement is our relationship drought savior? Or that black men are such disappointments that black women are praying for a white miracle to save them?Read More
Some feel that this isn’t an adequate way to really tell if he’s here for you. Some guys will play the role for 90 days and still leave. Here’s my personal belief: Guys don’t like it because they have to wait for something they want right now. They have to put a little more effort to get it, when honestly they were just hoping for it within the first week or two. (some cocky guys say the first night. But you know, F**k them.) I do agree with men on some of their viewpoints. A man could play the role, take your goodies and run. However, in my years of research, hearing other stories, and understanding human emotions, is waiting a period of time really that bad?Read More
Too often we make big decisions off of our current emotions. We jump to conclusions and it can cost us some big things. Relationships, friendships, jobs. I remember my mother told me about a girl who was her ace, but they stopped talking suddenly. Later she found out that during the conversation she had with my mother, the lady was offended because my mom laughed at something that maybe she shouldn’t have laughed at. Instead of reaching out and saying, “Hey, it hurt my feelings when…” she instead just stop talking to her. That’s it.Read More
ome of you know some “good” guys right now. These are good guys who you just don’t have a connection with. These are decent guys who will love you to death but you just aren’t that into them. Yet, because you think it’s better to have a good man that loves you more than you love him. With this thought process, you aren’t loving him the way that you would love him if he was your best friend or you had a stronger connection. This to me is what settling is. You aren’t excited about this man and though he will make a great partner, you are just basically using him for the marriage. You are using him so you won’t miss your chance for babies or your chance to be a wife. My dear, no one wants to be used.Read More
People Never Forget- Keke and her husband may wake up tomorrow and decide to work it all out. Now it’s too late. She’ll want to move forward and get on with her life, but everyone who saw it will still bring it up more often than she will. It’ll be 10 years later and people will still say “so you and your man still getting a divorce?” Messy a** people will say this at the most inconvenient times, like at your mother’s funeral. You know, rude schit like that.Read More