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He Doesn't Want To Be With You, He's Just A Good Guy

You are this vivacious, beautiful, good azz woman who is great to be around and a blast to be with. Your family says you are a great person. Your friends think you are terrific. The guys you don't want are all in enamored with you. You are this great catch so no man should be able to resist your charm.

Unfortunately, you can be the sweetest peach in Georgia, and there is still someone who may not like peaches. (Thanks Shanna!)

There is something about you that makes him not want to be with you in an exclusive relationship. But just because he doesn't want to be committed to you, doesn't mean that he doesn't see the value in the friendship with you.

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Lonely During The Holidays: Say No to Sex With Your Ex

The winter months are upon us, and you found your self still, single. I mean you had a great time this past summer. Dates all over the place, enjoying the heat and making moves, you had a fantastic summer! It just hasn't translated into a fantastic romance. Now that the temperature is dying down, cuffing season is upon us, and a certain someone may be dragging themselves back into your life. Yes, you guessed it, your raggedy ass ex.

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Three Reasons Why Single Women Can Give Great Relationship Advice

The crazy thing is, she’s not the only one who thinks this. Many people think if a woman is single, she cannot give advice on dating. They don’t care that she had strong relationships and they didn’t work out because of differing end games. They don’t care that maybe she’s a widow or lost her significant other because of circumstances beyond her control. Heck, they surely don’t care that she is single, because she genuinely wants to be single.

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Her Husband Gave Her HIV: Renee Burgess' Story

She didn’t mind sharing that she was pregnant with twins when she discovered her status.  Nor that when she found out that he tried to shame her into staying with her due to her being infected and used the infamous abuser phrase of “Who want want you now?” Ms. Burgess was so inviting with her conversation because she’s had so much practice speaking on her situation. When you talk to her it isn’t a “woe is me” type of story but a story of great deception that later led her to finding a higher calling.  I think many have focused on the details of how it happened to her, but I want to focus more on life after being infected.  

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The Midwest Regional Sweet And NaturalFest

The Sweet and Natural fest Put together by founder Daphney Thomas who has a background in Community Engagement, Program Coordination, and PR consulting for small businesses. This festival was created with the intent to promote "economic mobility, collectivity, and admiration for ethnic beauty in a family friendly and very vibrant atmosphere" says Thomas.  Tiffany Ware was also very pivotal to helping pull off an amazing event!  Ware who is the creative director for The Brown Girls Project which was "developed to celebrate, uplift, encourage and inspire a specific segment of black women and girls who are normally invisible or even dismissed by mainstream media and oftentimes our own community." Look out for this duo's amazing feats in the future!

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I Spent Too Much Time Hating Being Single

In actuality my standards weren’t even high.  They were a low-medium at best.  At first it was just that you needed a pulse. Then I upgraded to you need a pulse and your own car.  Finally, I got to pulse, own car/crib, job that supports you and you alone(and your kids if you have them), a good person, and someone I could mentally connect with.  I set up little rules like “I’m not going to do this until I get a man” and other things that I put out into the universe hoping to cheat destiny by pretending that I didn’t want a man, but in actuality I did. I was putting so much stress on myself and listening to others so much that I was unhappy.

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How A Single Gal Stays Sane During the Holidays

Be long winded and Honest- Don’t you hate those people who keep talking and talking, and you can’t get a word in edge wise? Then what do you do? Avoid them and certain topics because you don’t want to be caught up in that hurricane. Make sense right? Be that person! Be that long winded talker that makes people want to stay farrr away from the subject.  Tell them all the unexciting nuances of dating and use that Ben Stein voice to really drive it home.  Your boring story coupled with their recent ingestion of Tryptophan, will have them running away from.

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Should You Wait 90 Days Before Sex?

Some feel that this isn’t an adequate way to really tell if he’s here for you. Some guys will play the role for 90 days and still leave.  Here’s my personal belief:  Guys don’t like it because they have to wait for something they want right now.  They have to put a little more effort to get it, when honestly they were just hoping for it within the first week or two. (some cocky guys say the first night. But you know, F**k them.)  I do agree with men on some of their viewpoints.  A man could play the role, take your goodies and run. However, in my years of research, hearing other stories, and understanding human emotions, is waiting a period of time really that bad?

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4 Reasons Why Putting Your Business On Social Media Is Not The Thing To Do

 People Never Forget-  Keke and her husband may wake up tomorrow and decide to work it all out. Now it’s too late.  She’ll want to move forward and get on with her life, but everyone who saw it will still bring it up more often than she will.  It’ll be 10 years later and people will still say “so you and your man still getting a divorce?” Messy a** people will say this at the most inconvenient times, like at your mother’s funeral. You know, rude schit like that.

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5 Ways To Kick Start Your Path to Self Improvement: Relationships

1.     Listen to understand, not to rebut- When we participate in conversations with other people, it can be enjoyable.  But sometimes, we don't truly understand what they are saying to us.  We listen to parts and pieces but because we are ready to hurry up and be heard, we miss a lot of what they are saying.  You may even try to cut them off with your response, but because you are so focused on what you want to say next or trying to craft an “amazing” comeback, you may miss key points of the issue.  I know it might be a challenge, but sit still, clear your mind, and wait until they finish their whole thought.  It may explain what you were going to say or even answer your question entirely. Not to mention people will be happy that you sat and listened to their point of view.

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Single Gal's Guide to Culture: Bolivia

Originally from Calfornia, Gisselle talked about being very connected with not only her Bolivian culture but the indigenous ancestry that makes up for almost 60 percent of Bolivian heritage.  Celebrations with family and friends as well as the style of dress are just a few things that make Gisselle so proud of her culture.  Matched with a desire to deepen her connection to her roots, Gisselle lived in Bolivia briefly, taking part in day to day Bolivian activities.  

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Single, 32 and Counting....

But it wasn’t for a lack of trying. You see I had tried everything. Everything in the mo fo' sun.  I know you are thinking “nuh un, if you did you wouldn’t be single right now.” Now, that is partially true.  Let me clarify that I am not single because I’m deficient in something.(or so i'm told)  I’m single because it is just not my time.

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What to do when obstacles get in your way

When we have done things in life and it has failed we often take that action of what we did as something we should not have done. What if the complete action wasn't a no, but how we approached it? For example, a friend of mine relied on a lump sum of money coming her way in order to make a down payment on a large purchase. She knew this money would be in her account on X day and planned the whole purchase based on that "confirmed" money.

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